Somewhere in time, this belief has been formed that if you as a woman desire to be loved or to be in a relationship that you are somehow needy. Far too many people who desire a romantic relationship have been told over and over, “you have time” and to not worry about finding a relationship. Now of course, not everyone desires to be in a romantic relationship at the same time and in the same way, and many single people are very content where they are, and are not even thinking about a relationship. However, this is a reminder for women who desire to meet and fall in love with the Godly man that will become their husband. This is for you:
It’s okay to desire that. And it’s okay if none of the guys at your church, on your college campus, or in your community seem to want that, don’t let that cause you think that maybe you’re asking for too much to desire to be loved.
I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine…- Song of Solomon 6:3
Song of Solomon is a book of the Bible that points to love between man and woman before God. Of course we do not have all of the same customs as King Solomon and his wife did it our culture today, but there is no coincidence that this book is included in the canon of scripture. The words of the bride in the verse above is to the man that is about to become her husband.
It’s not wrong to desire that. Yes, it is true that there will be many people who remain single and there is even a Biblical way of doing that (1 Corinthians 7), but understand this: if you DO desire marriage, and if you DO desire to be loved in that way, it is not wrong. It may seem at times as if it’s too late for you or that none of the eligible men seem to look your way, but here’s the reality: in the same way that God is working on you, He is working on other single men around the world right now who desire romantic love, too. Don’t let anyone cause you think that love isn’t worth pursuing just because of what culture says or because of past experiences. No, it isn’t easy, but with God, it’s not impossible. He has always loved you, and will continue to do so no matter what the future holds.
Written by @morganhnichols for #TheDevoCo
